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Do you often find yourself in conversations where the other person seems uninterested in what you have to say? Do some of the people in your life monopolize conversations, interrupt frequently, or constantly complain? Does someone in your life seem to have an unending...

This blog post was co-authored by Andrea Wachter, LMFT, and Marsea Marcus, LMFT Do you often focus on the needs of others but ignore your own? Do you find yourself preoccupied by how your loved ones are doing? Do you have difficulty expressing your feelings and needs...

It seems like it should be natural to treat our partners with love, consideration, and respect. Yet, for many people in long-term relationships, the warmth and kindness that were present in the early days of dating can fade over time. Most people treat their partners...

This blog post was co-authored by Andrea Wachter, LMFT, and Steve Legallet, LMFT Remember the feelings you experienced when you first started dating your spouse or partner? Perhaps you felt excitement, attraction, and anticipation? As the relationship has progressed,...

You’ve very likely heard these two words from your parents when you were growing up. If you’re a parent now, you may even say them to your own kids. They’re about as sensible as basic hygiene and car tune-ups. “Be nice.” I remember finishing up a particularly...

Most of us do not easily speak our truth. Our behavior is determined by years of conditioning. We are told, “Be nice and polite,” and “Don‘t hurt anyone’s feelings.” We may be so bogged down with shoulds and shouldn’ts that we find it hard to identfy our true feelings...

“I dated her for a while, but she got way too clingy.” “I was interested in him at first, but then he became needy and controlling.” “I love my husband, but sometimes he‘s so distant that I don’t know what’s going on with him.” “I want things to work out with my...

It seems to me in our great grandparents and grandparents’ era, people seemed to stay together no matter what. In today’s fast moving, perfectionistic world people seem quick to leave no matter what. In my therapy practice, I often help ambivalent clients...

Fortunately, my husband and I don’t argue very often. I think that’s partly because we’re both psychotherapists who’ve had a lot of training in communication skills. It’s also because neither of us has any problem saying we’re wrong about something, nor do we have any...

Do you ever have those moments when someone says something that renders you speechless? Your brain gets flooded, your tongue gets tied, and you simply don’t know what to say? Perhaps later you think of what you could have said or wish you’d said. Or maybe you get...